
There are days when I’m a whiz in the kitchen. Days when I can open the leaded glass cupboard doors with a sense of adventure, take a quick inventory of what’s on offer, and whip up a succulent dish which brings titillated nostrils into the kitchen in a trance.
And then there are days when, try as I might, my creations are destined to failure. This was almost one of those days. Somehow, the love and intention that went into my forays, although botched, redeemed my mistakes.
It all started with a deep desire to pour my heart into something scrumptious for my poor darling who’s suffering from dental surgery. Last Thursday Roddy had all four wisdom teeth removed – an excavation which has left him looking like Pob and feeling “weally weally wotton.” I, obviously, have been relishing the opportunity to pamper and spoil him. But he’s hardly given me the opportunity to play Nurse Andrea. The pain has been so severe he’s barely touched a morsel and has had precious few requests since the first afternoon of grogginess.
Today was my breaking point. My nurturing instinct was at risk of exploding if I couldn’t provide for my man. So, inspired by a recipe from Vegan Yum Yum, and driven by a deep, personal desire to finally make a sweet local treat I’ve been swooning over, I armed myself with a grocery list and struck off for the market. It was my Sunday afternoon mission, on this sunny autumn day, to warm our home with love: in the form of foods which Roddy did not request, but which he would adore.
Upon returning to our clean kitchen, a phone call to my Grandma was in order. I was somewhat shocked that she doubted my ability to multi-task – “I’ve never been able to carry out a couple of things at once,” she warned. But, phone wedged between shoulder and jaw I carried on, hands dusted with flour and cocoa as I measured out ingredients for the divine Vegan Brownies from the Rebar cookbook. (I’m obsessed with these brownies, and have dropped lots of cash for them at my neighborhood coffee shop.)
My Grandma and I chatted about the recent federal election, what we’re reading, her observations of Scandinavia, and of a recent report she’d read: apparently Danes are the happiest people in the world. I was just putting the brownies in the oven as we said our goodbyes and I-love-you’s.
A few minutes later I realized that my Grandma’s warnings should have been heeded. I had added a ½ cup of sugar to the mix. It called for 1 ½ cups. When I got over the initial shock, I decided to let it be – surely the super sugary carob chips and rich topping made with the finest Canadian Callebaut artisanal chocolate would sweeten the brownies up?
A little deflated, I got on with the next project: a roasted squash soup adapted from this recipe and one of Rebar’s. As it turned out, I only had half the ingredients I needed because I was set on using seasonal veg, and a spaghetti squash instead of a delicata squash. I am not a fussy eater, in fact, there are very few things I will not eat. Spaghetti squash is one of them. But this soup was for Roddy, and I would not be phased by another hiccup in my mission. Plus, at this point my brownies had (almost) cooled, so I could soothe my spirit with a wee taste.
Although they didn’t fill the house with the typical sweet aromas, my brownies were not compromised by the lack of sugar. They were so tasty that I carefully assessed and reassessed what a typical portion at the shop resembled, just to clean up the edges, of course. My attention to detail was sloppy, however, and the still gooey topping ended up everywhere but my mouth.

Then, I cut my tongue while licking the knife clean. When I burned four fingers on the hot edge of the roasting pan as I was fighting with the spaghetti squash, I was near tears. My acts of love were turning into a war in the kitchen.
But then, in an unintended role reversal, my ill, swollen-cheeked man came through to console and coddle me, and tend to my wounds. Luckily, the stringy squash was a shadow of it’s former self after a quick blast in the blender. And the hybrid soup was a creamy, absolutely delicious surprise (recipe forthcoming).
Thus, love endures in our kitchen.
Update: brownies are not the ideal treat to make someone who’s recently undergone dental surgery - but you all knew that. Now, if anyone can offer advice on how to resist the urge to keep nibbling these delights, I’m all ears! At the rate I’m going, there will scarcely be a crumb left for Roddy.